What if you are capable of endless self-improvement?

by Kittie Bernott in , ,

Where does that leave you? What does it mean? And why does it screw you over?

I had a pretty interesting revelation tonight while doing the dishes.

Why does so much profundity occur during household chores?

In the process of feeling pressured to finish dishes, clean the kitchen, and start cooking dinner, I blamed myself for not starting earlier. Feeling more motivated. Enjoying the domestic bliss of scraping dried rice casserole off dinner plates. 

Then I realized: What if I had started a half hour earlier? Would I truly be satisfied? Or would I be berating myself for something equally tiny, just a little bit earlier in the past?

Then it dawned on me, full blown, like one of those flower opening in fast motion videos:

We can always do better. Try harder. Be smarter. Learn more. Work faster.

There is no limit to our capacity for self-improvement and, therefore, no limit to our ability to second-guess and judge ourselves for not being better. 

If we can always be better, then we can always be dissatisfied with our current self.



Or, we can be kind to ourselves. Be happy with where we are at in the present. Be thankful we got off the couch to do dishes in the first place. Be sure duper happy there's enough mozzarella to make pizza tonight (with extra crispy pepperoni, yum).  

Being happy in the moment is the core tenant of pretty much every spiritual teaching, but it didn't hit me until tonight how it is so very easy to push ourselves past the moment-happy into the can-be-better. 

There's no day when we'll wake up, look around, and say, "Welp, I've done it all. I'm totally blissed out with me, myself and I. It's all complete."

Therefore, if life itself is nothing but a constant form of self-improvement, we totally absolutely 100% have permission to be happy now. Because we'll still be trying really hard tomorrow. Dirty dishes or no.

I can't believe this is my new pep talk.

by Kittie Bernott in , ,

I know. I know! It's so silly. But it's true.

By it, I mean the message in the video. I know it came about via experimentation and film school shenanigans, and I know Shia looks like a sort of man-ape motivational speaker, but the entire message is spot flipping on

In 2012 I had an early mid-life crisis. I had a home, a job, a loving family... but I saw no future for myself. No plane of existence where I was doing something that Truly Mattered. My soul was feeling awfully withered and I was scared I'd feel like that forever.

I was able to turn things around! It took time, asking for help, some deep searching, and lots of work. But every minute of it was soul expanding, not contracting. Every step made me feel more alive, and in touch with something larger than myself. A purpose. A calling. A reason to get up in the morning. 

Looking back, because hindsight is a blessed bitch, I can identify one of my most pivotal shifts. I can't call it a "moment," because it took months to realize. But once it clicked, there was no going back. And here it is:

We have to grow our lives into what we want them to be.

Life does not hand us a basket chock full of our hopes and dreams. We have to get down in the dirt, plant the seeds of our desires, nurture them while they grow, and harvest the fruits of our labors.

Life absolutely helps us along the way! Life brings the energetic rain to nurture our seeds; life brings the people in alignment to help up tend our garden; life gives us lessons and obstacles so we learn how to be stronger in our purpose.  

But life doesn't do the work and hand us the results. It's up to us to decide what we want and go for it. Then, and only then, do we get handed help along the way.

My biggest problem three years ago was figuring out what it was I wanted. I could not answer the question, "What do I want to be when I grow up?" I knew what I could do, and I knew what I wanted -- but I had no idea how to fill in the big middle gap. 

One day back then, through a series of events I can only describe as eerily synchronistic, I discovered a book titled Your Heart's Desire: Instructions for Creating the Life You Really Want. I knew nothing about the author, and the language was a little hokey for my taste at the time, but the book offered a step-by-step plan for identifying, nurturing, and converting dreams into realities. So, I committed. I did the steps exactly as instructed. I filled pages and pages of my journal with words and sketches and hopes and fears and dreams that I wanted to come true. 

And it worked. 

It's not that it helped me bring my dream car into my life (even though it totally did and I love Haniel more than is likely reasonable), it's not that it showed me how powerful the human mind is, it's not even that it helped me reconnect with LTUAE after years of separation... this book taught me a formula for getting my thoughts out of the aether and into reality. It was like a Golden Ticket.

So what's my point? Just do it. Make your dreams come true. If you feel stuck, if you have a great idea but no place to start, if you know you're destined for more but repeat the same pattern every day: tell a friend or write it down or scream it from a cliff top (I did this last one, it's totally liberating). Decide that you want to plant a seed and bring a dream into reality. Look around for a Golden Ticket of your own. Read books and listen to podcasts and find blogs written by people who have been there and done that. Heck, please email me and ask me for resources. This has nothing to do with whether or not you believe in God or The Secret or Atlantis or Atheism. It has everything to do with the fact that you are human, and capable of creating what you want, as long as you have a place to start. 

Because yes you can!

Special Premiere Discount for Guardians of the Galaxy!

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I am particularly excited about Marvel's latest cinematic venture. Guardians of the Galaxy premieres on Friday, August 1, 2014. I will be there sporting a Rocket Raccoon piece of my very own.

But even better, I have ten new pieces for sale, crafted straight from the first three volumes of Bendis' Guardians reboot. I am sending a special discount out in this month's newsletter to ensure you can wear a Studio Kittie piece to opening night!

If you are not already on the list, you can sign up here. Studio Kittie Newsletters are the very best way to hear about new collections, subscriber-only discounts and other various and sundry. 

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So there we have it! I hope you will join me in celebrating the Guardians as they undoubtedly kick a great deal of alien bottom. Until then, the trailer shall tide us over.